How to Sleep When Dealing With Pre Wedding Jitters

Stress, anxiety, and jitters are completely normal when you're planning a wedding. It's a major commitment -- and there are seemingly endless details and to do lists to tackle to put on an event like a wedding. Wedding jitters can keep you up at night, and that's bad news for your health and ability to enjoy your wedding.


When you don't sleep well, you don't look or feel your best. You may feel fatigued, struggle to manage emotions, and have difficulty with your memory and concentration. Sleep can impact stress as well, making any anxiety and stress you feel more difficult to manage as you're in a diminished state.


But managing pre wedding jitters and getting the sleep you need can put you in a good place for feeling healthy and crushing your wedding to do lists with ease. It's a good idea to practice relaxation, improve or maintain good sleep habits, and get help with planning and executing your wedding.


Use these tips to manage pre wedding jitters and get better sleep at night leading up to your wedding day.


  • Get help. Weddings can be massive events with lots of details to plan, things to do, and a high level of management. Sometimes, it's just too much to handle on your own and you need to recognize when it's time to ask for help. You may not have much time to spare to begin with, or you just need some support making your wedding day vision a reality. Don't be shy about asking for help, which can be incredibly calming and offer you the support you need to execute the event of your dreams with the least amount of stress possible. Hire a wedding planner or coordinator for help with planning wedding details and coordinating the event. Ask friends and family to gather recommendations for vendors so all you need to do is interview and choose the best ones. If you're planning DIY projects, make an event out of it and ask your wedding party, family, and friends to come help put things together so it's fun and lightens your load. And especially on your wedding day, delegate tasks so instead of you making sure everyone has transportation from your hotel room to the ceremony venue, someone else is dealing with that detail and you can simply enjoy the ride.

  • Take care of yourself. Weddings planning is a busy time, and it's easy to decide that you'd rather interview a couple more vendors than make it to the gym, relax on the couch, or go on a grocery run for healthy food to make at home. But instead of pushing aside the things you need to feel good, schedule everything else around self care priorities so they don't get skipped. Accept that you might not get to everything you'd like to -- but those details might not be as important as maintaining your physical and mental health.

  • Schedule sleep first. Similarly, it's important to make sleep a top priority. You might be tempted to spend late nights on your laptop in bed wrapping up details so you feel less stressed, but that's not the time to deal with them. Plan ahead and schedule tasks and activities around your sleep time. You need seven to nine hours of sleep each night, so it's a good idea to shoot for eight and give yourself time to fall asleep and wake up. Let go of commitments, tasks, and anything else that's getting in the way of sleep that you feel you could drop, because sleep is essential to functioning well. And if you can't sleep well, you may struggle to do your best with wedding planning and other important priorities in your life.

  • Practice healthy sleep habits. A healthy sleep routine can help you relax and shake off jitters before bed and make the most of your sleep time with good quality sleep. Follow a consistent sleep schedule and bedtime routine, and make your bedroom a healthy place for sleep, using tools like an air purifier or white noise machine to improve sleep quality. Make sure you're avoiding sleep pitfalls, like caffeine after 3 p.m. or alcohol just before bed, which can lower your sleep quality. Go through relaxing activities before bed, such as yoga and meditation, which can help you clear your mind and relax. If you struggle with anxious thoughts, keep a journal next to your bed where you can jot them down and let them go until you can address them the next day.


Pre wedding jitters may be normal, but that doesn't mean they're innocuous. Focus on relaxation, planning ahead, getting support, and adjusting your priorities so you can plan a great wedding -- while still maintaining great health and good sleep so you'll feel good enough to enjoy it all.


Sara Westgreen is a researcher for the sleep science hub Tuck.com. She sleeps on a king size bed in Texas, where she defends her territory against cats all night. A mother of three, she enjoys beer, board games, and getting as much sleep as she can get her hands on.

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